“What do you think about a woman who wants to get married but doesn’t want to change her name?”
Here are some of the responces on FB yesterday. Let us know what you think by leaving your comments below or you can also leave your comments on my FB page… www.facebook.com/DeaconOnAir
“I think it all depends. If she has an established name is her business or career.”
“I get that but even Jada Pinkett hyphenated her name.”
“I dont think women should try to change a traditional thing!..When men have babygirls we already have set in our mind that she will not have our last name forever.And thats why we want boys so that our name lives on! its just not the way of the world.”
“Why is a mans name more important than a womans. If we continue doing things because thats the way they are where is the evolution in that. Marraige is all about property rights and status. A wife and children are additions to a mans assets. Thats fine if you choose to belong to someone and call it a union. But it was never designed for the sake of love. Thats just a potential perk.”
“Its all about money. Nothing more nothing less. Marraige is a legal method of controlling finances and a standard of living. Its traditional to marry inside your race, the opposite sex, the same religion, and so on. We change traditions when they no longer work for us. Some of you may think this tradition works so since its not broke dont fix it. But would you rather use the horse messenger or a telephone? Theres nothing wrong with advancing our ways and enhancing our minds.”
“Some things are made to evolve and others just aren’t….It’s a matter of family….when a child is born and the father is present the child takes the fathers name.”
“There are other ways to do it. Other countries extend their name all the time. Its proper to have his last name as a mother because society says so & she doesnt look like whore to a bastard child. It use to benefit a woman because we were n…obody if noones wife or daughter. If its all about family why do we have to lose our last name while the oh so valued men keep theres. Because traditionally the sperm is thought to be more important than the egg. We were considered family to the masters who changed our heritage to theirs as slaves. Apparently that wasnt meant to evolve either because we all continue the tradition of our european families.”
“I plan on marrying a man and when I do it is only right that I take his name….. A man is expected to provide and protect for his family and women aren’t.”
“A marraige or relationship should be a compliment to your life. You cant stand together if you cant stand alone.”
“I believe that things have changed but some things aren’t broken… I have my fathers name as sky has his….difference is that if we marry I will gladly take his because he is the head of the household….. I can maintain my life and everything in it as can he.”
“I’m not interested in marraige. But as a history major the basis of it is obsolete. Like you just said your glad to do it. Because you love him. I just look forward to a day when whoever is in love can be free to show the same devotion you will. A day when its ok for a man to maintain his machismo and take his wifes name because maybe shes the head of household or he just loves her enough to do so.”
“No one would respect a man that took a woman’s last name.”
“The bottom line is my father gave me my name. Your father gave you your name. So when I marry I’m not giving up my fathers name because the son carries on the family name.”
