After one crazy long weekend I wake up to emails like this!! LOL!! and it’s only Monday! lol So I asked the “Relationship Beast”, Steven J. Dixon, to weigh in!
Email #1
Anonymous from the East Side of Indy
Hey,
My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to have a threesome. We have talked about it before and he knows I have never done anything like that before. I said to him that one day I might be willing to try it out. He told me he had met a girl that wants to have one with us and that it was totally up to me. He was cool with me saying yes or no to it. He said that he wanted us to do it as a team or not at all. My question to you is what is your opinion on what a threesome does to the relationship? We have never done anything like it before and my concerns are for the long term of the relationship. I don’t want us to do something like that if it is going to hurt our relationship. What are your thoughts?
Relationship Beast SJD: After the man has a threesome with you, both of y’all are hoes.
Skyy Daniels: BWAHAHAA!! STEVEN!! LOL well I say this. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. With that being said, if you are entertaining the idea either (a) you are curious yourself or (b) you don’t have a mind of your own and you are fearful of not “pleasing” him & losing him so you will be pressured into doing so. So, which one of those are you boo?!
Email #2
Angel from the Westside of Indy
I have been on a date with this guy I really like twice, the first date was pretty awesome, he was a perfect gentleman, fetched me from work, we had a good evening and even shared our first kiss……..but when he dropped me home, I somehow expected him to call before I could sleep and say he had a great time or whatever. But he sent me a text on bbm and that was it! So everyday we chatted for a while on bbm and these chats weren’t really going anywhere, the guy would just flirt with me and I had to put a stop to that cos somehow I felt that it was gona lead to a booty call. Okay fine he calmed down a bit, so Date number two was on my bday! Again it was another perfect date! He even surprised me with a birthday cake, made me feel special I was happy! I’ve known the guy for a month and almost 2 weeks now, he doesn’t call much, we chat more on bbm ( I don’t like that) I get upset when I see a status I don’t understand on his facebook or twitter yet I cannot ask him because we aren’t an item. I have been single for 9months now, this guy has recently come out of a relationship and he told me he is kinda taking things slow, now I didn’t know what he meant, I still don’t cos I never asked. He told me he enjoys meeting people and he goes out on date. Was I one of his random dates or does he like me at all? I don’t want to fall for somebody who isn’t in to me, I just need to know how on earth will I know for sure if this guy likes me at all? Please help me :(
Relationship Beast (SJD):
Based on your description below I would think that you are moving too fast emotionally. As of right now, you like him more than he likes you. That’s not a big deal for right now but it could turn into a big deal in the future if you don’t slow down. You have been out on two dates. You are not in a relationship. You should assume that he is dating other people. Again, not a bad thing because you have the option of dating other people as well.
When dating a man, a woman has two responsibilities: 1.) Let the man know that you are Interested. 2.) Let the man know that you are Available. Once you have let a man know that you are Interested & Available and he doesn’t response accordingly then you have to move on. You cannot pursue or chase a man. He has to want you in order for a relationship to develop. If he doesn’t pursue you, you cannot waste your time sitting around fantasying about him. You best believe he is not sitting around fantasying about you.
He has asked you out twice. I am ok with you now asking him out. I created something called “Light Dating” where a woman can ask a man out on a date. Light Dating is asking a man out for ice cream, cake or coffee in the early evening or during the day on the weekend. Nothing after 7 PM. No steaks, candle light dinners or formal invitations
Skyy Daniels: He’s just not that into you and chill out mama!!
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