You’re in a situation. It could be a job, relationship, etc. You’ve invested some time, things aren’t the greatest, but you stay. You, my friend, are in “the comfort zone” – easy to get yourself into, but harder to get out of. I know all about the comfort zone. Personally, I’ve managed to stay in several situations that I knew weren’t good for me. Weakness you say? Perhaps. I say no, not at all. I just don’t give up easily on the things I want most. Let’s be honest though, I’m only human and that comfort zone’s a mofo.
You have a job. Let’s just say you’ve invested time, tears, the pay’s not too great, but you refuse to leave. Is it the job itself, your boss, co-workers, or fear keeping you there? Perhaps it’s those same things pushing you to leave? Yet, you sit there happy-go-lucky and twiddling your thumbs when in actuality, you’re anything but happy. You’re tired of being overworked, underpaid, overlooked, and unappreciated.
What about in a relationship? Same sh*t, different day. You’re with such-n-such, with whom you care about deeply, but things haven’t been the same in a while. You try to be patient and see things through, not realizing just how much you’re hurting yourself by staying. You think about how many years it’s been and reflect on the happier moments (which occasionally find their way back around), but this reflection is merely a distraction from the bad; a distraction from the now. Why don’t you leave? No one wants to be miserable. It’s simple, the comfort zone has gotten the best of you.
As easy as it is for you to stay, ask yourself how much easier would it be if you removed yourself from these situations that may feel good at times, but aren’t the best for you. Remember what feels, looks, and seems good, isn’t always good for you! Another thing that keeps us in these situations is the essence of time. Time isn’t everything, nor is it forever. Sometimes that’s all you have is time and when it gets to that point, let go my friend. Let go and let God. Easier said than done, but it’s possible!
-Ms EKlass
Tomorrow’s post: “It’s A Man’s World.”
